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When we fall in love, we often believe that the relationship will last forever.
We always hope that this one is the one, that it will be different this time, that there’s no way anything can ever happen to break you up.
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Except, sometimes those things can happen and you do breakup. If we only look at the divorce rate, research shows it is around 50% (although measuring divorce rates is more complex than comparing marriages to divorces in a single year.)
Why and How Do Breakups Happen?
Most of us enter relationships with the hope that we will never have to end them. Marriage, especially, is built on the promise that it will remain “until death do us apart.”
Common causes for breakups include personality differences, lack of time spent together, infidelity, lack of positive interactions between the couple, low sexual satisfaction, and low overall relationship satisfaction.
How to Break up the Right Way
We say “right” way, but in reality, there is no right or “best” way to break up. Every relationship is different. It is up to you to consider the personality, needs, and feelings of your partner as you read through this article and figure out how to end things.
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- Understand that there is no pain-free way to breakup
We all wish that we could end relationship without any hurt or pain. But no matter how broken the relationship is, officially ending it will cause pain on both sides.
Once you acknowledge that there will be pain, you can be prepared for the aftermath.
- Do it face-to-face
If you’ve ever been dumped by text or email, you know how it feels to be given so little consideration that the other person didn’t even bother to tell you in person. Why do the same to another person? Your partner deserves the dignity of a face-to-face conversation.
An intimate setting is arguable better, but if you are worried about your partner having a violent reaction, a public place is safer.
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- Be honest but don’t give too much details.
In general, people want to know why they’re being dumped. While “you’re terrible in bed” or “you lack ambition” might seem like an honest answer, it doesn’t really preserve your partner’s self-esteem or dignity.
Using a reflexive sentence like “I don’t feel we’re compatible sexually” or “I don’t think our long-term goals align anymore” are nicer ways to express your feelings. Don’t do a play-by-play of the things the other person did wrong or use cliché like “it’s not you, it’s me.”
- Do not give in to arguments or protests
If the breakup is a surprise for the other person, they might try to argue or protest, give reasons why you should remain together and try again one more time.
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If you are at the point of breaking up, nothing can restore or revive the relationship now.
Giving in will only delay the inevitable.
- Express your sadness at the breakup and share some good things about your time together.
Being dumped feels really bad. You can soften the blow a little by sharing some of the good times you shared together: “you taught me so much about cooking and I am a better cook now, thanks to you,” or something similar.
You want to make the other person feel like they had a positive impact on your life despite the relationship ending.
You may also want to say something like: “I had hoped for us to grow old together and I am sad that it will not happen.” It shows that you share some of your partners’ hurt feelings about broken hopes.
- Avoid turning the other person into “the bad guy.”
Nobody’s perfect. You have faults too, and turning your ex-partner into an evil figure is not helpful (aside from obvious instances of violence, but that’s not the kind of relationship we’re talking about here).
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They may have done some bad things, like cheating, but they are human too. It’s better to resolve your feelings around what they did (if they did anything wrong) rather than who they are.
- Give yourself time to grieve.
Even if you are the one breaking up, there will be a period of heartbreak, sadness, and pain. Realize that you will also need to adjust to your new situation.
Surround yourself with people you love, do things that make you happy, and remember that crying and feeling sad is perfectly okay.
In summary, in any breakup situation, the most important thing to remember is to be kind and compassionate.
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It’s easy to forget how the other person might feel when we are so caught up in our own emotions, but it is essential to avoid centering the entire conversation on yourself.
If you reach out with kindness and compassion, things will be much easier for everyone.
Feel free to share your thoughts below in comment box. Have you ever experience broken heart, then let us know if the person did it the right way or in a different way, you feel it was wrong?
Source: Ghanaarticles.com
