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How to End a Relationship the Right Way

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When we fall in love, we often believe that the relationship will last forever.

We always hope that this one is the one, that it will be different this time, that there’s no way anything can ever happen to break you up.

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Except, sometimes those things can happen and you do breakup. If we only look at the divorce rate, research shows it is around 50% (although measuring divorce rates is more complex than comparing marriages to divorces in a single year.)

Why and How Do Breakups Happen?

Most of us enter relationships with the hope that we will never have to end them. Marriage, especially, is built on the promise that it will remain “until death do us apart.”

Common causes for breakups include personality differences, lack of time spent together, infidelity, lack of positive interactions between the couple, low sexual satisfaction,  and low overall relationship satisfaction.

How to Break up the Right Way

We say “right” way, but in reality, there is no right or “best” way to break up. Every relationship is different. It is up to you to consider the personality, needs, and feelings of your partner as you read through this article and figure out how to end things.

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  1. Understand that there is no pain-free way to breakup

We all wish that we could end relationship without any hurt or pain. But no matter how broken the relationship is, officially ending it will cause pain on both sides.

Once you acknowledge that there will be pain, you can be prepared for the aftermath.

  1. Do it face-to-face

If you’ve ever been dumped by text or email, you know how it feels to be given so little consideration that the other person didn’t even bother to tell you in person. Why do the same to another person? Your partner deserves the dignity of a face-to-face conversation.

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An intimate setting is arguable better, but if you are worried about your partner having a violent reaction, a public place is safer.

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  1. Be honest but don’t give too much details.

In general, people want to know why they’re being dumped. While “you’re terrible in bed” or “you lack ambition” might seem like an honest answer, it doesn’t really preserve your partner’s self-esteem or dignity.

Using a reflexive sentence like “I don’t feel we’re compatible sexually” or “I don’t think our long-term goals align anymore” are nicer ways to express your feelings. Don’t do a play-by-play of the things the other person did wrong or use cliché like “it’s not you, it’s me.”

  1. Do not give in to arguments or protests

If the breakup is a surprise for the other person, they might try to argue or protest, give reasons why you should remain together and try again one more time.

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If you are at the point of breaking up, nothing can restore or revive the relationship now.

Giving in will only delay the inevitable.

  1. Express your sadness at the breakup and share some good things about your time together.

Being dumped feels really bad. You can soften the blow a little by sharing some of the good times you shared together: “you taught me so much about cooking and I am a better cook now, thanks to you,” or something similar.

You want to make the other person feel like they had a positive impact on your life despite the relationship ending.

You may also want to say something like: “I had hoped for us to grow old together and I am sad that it will not happen.” It shows that you share some of your partners’ hurt feelings about broken hopes.

  1. Avoid turning the other person into “the bad guy.”
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Nobody’s perfect. You have faults too, and turning your ex-partner into an evil figure is not helpful (aside from obvious instances of violence, but that’s not the kind of relationship we’re talking about here).

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They may have done some bad things, like cheating, but they are human too. It’s better to resolve your feelings around what they did (if they did anything wrong) rather than who they are.

  1. Give yourself time to grieve.

Even if you are the one breaking up, there will be a period of heartbreak, sadness, and pain. Realize that you will also need to adjust to your new situation.

Surround yourself with people you love, do things that make you happy, and remember that crying and feeling sad is perfectly okay.

In summary, in any breakup situation, the most important thing to remember is to be kind and compassionate.

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It’s easy to forget how the other person might feel when we are so caught up in our own emotions, but it is essential to avoid centering the entire conversation on yourself.

If you reach out with kindness and compassion, things will be much easier for everyone.

Feel free to share your thoughts below in comment box. Have you ever experience broken heart, then let us know if the person did it the right way or in a different way, you feel it was wrong?

Source: Ghanaarticles.com

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What governments all over the world are doing after COVID

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What governments all over the world are doing after COVID in 2022.

One of the most important ways that societies intervene to buffer the adverse consequences of socioeconomic disadvantage is through the provision of social assistance. Social assistance refers to government programs that provide a minimum level of income support to individuals and households living in poverty.

When people talk about people receiving public assistance – food stamps, disability, unemployment payments, and other government help – they often have stereotypes and inaccurate perceptions of who those people are and what their lives are like.

This view of some people is affecting policy for the growing ranks of our nation’s poor, says a new report from a joint project from Save the Children and the Center for American Progress. The report compares the U.S. means of measuring economic opportunity and poverty with the experience of other countries, including five peer nations on the same income scale. It shows that people in many peer countries are given assistance as a matter of public policy, and these nations tend to view welfare programs as a short-term emergency measure.

Many countries like the U.S and spend significantly more taxpayer money on assistance than peer countries. After a few years of assistance, people on welfare in the U.S. have a much more difficult time finding jobs, according to the recent National Survey of Transitional Assistance Providers. These programs lend support either in the form of direct cash transfers or through a variety of in-kind benefits (e.g. food stamps and rent subsidies). Social assistance has been shown to strengthen the purchasing power of the poor and raise their material standards of living.

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However, the government does not provide these social assistance programs to ensure marginalized populations are treated fairly, the report says. In fact, U.S. policy determines participation by significant factors, such as the stigma associated with poverty.

Many social programs determine eligibility before a person’s need for support. They include the U.S. Earned Income Tax Credit, which provides an additional tax refund to working families. Similarly, these benefits are made available only to the poor, as with food stamps and Medicaid eligibility. The report finds positive signs.

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Throughout the world, government assistance helps increase your odds of getting a job, incorporates receiving benefits (by lowering the barriers to receive), raises your wages, and reduces the chances of falling into poverty. This means people who receive the assistance are less likely to experience long-term poverty.

Some nations take a deliberate approach to the provision of social assistance because they view the social support system as integral to promoting social and economic mobility. In many cases, straight into the workforce programs and an expansion.

Access to jobs is crucial to moving families out of poverty. Unemployment and disability, for example, only benefit people when they work. A policy reform could make the social safety net more effective.

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Nigeria Warns Of Possible Eid Al-Fitr Bomb Attacks

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Nigeria’s secret police have warned of possible bomb attacks during celebrations for Eid al-Fitr, which marks the end of the Islamic holy month of Ramadan.

In a statement, spokesperson Peter Afunanya said the Department of State Services (DSS) had uncovered a plot by suspected gangs to carry out attacks on critical infrastructure, places of worship and recreation centres.

The warning comes after recent explosions at bars in the north-eastern states of Taraba and Yobe that killed several people.

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A splinter faction of Boko Haram known as Islamic State West Africa Province (Iswap) said it carried out the attacks.

 

 

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Russia Cuts Off Gas Supplies To Bulgaria And Poland

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Russia Cuts Off Gas Supplies To Bulgaria And Poland

The Russian energy giant Gazprom says it has cut off all gas deliveries to both Bulgaria and Poland after both countries refused to start paying for the supplies in roubles.

Earlier, both Polish and Bulgarian energy providers said they had received official notices from the Russian gas supplier that deliveries were due to be cut.

Gazprom’s announcement comes after some confusion earlier this morning, when data showed gas supplies into Poland through Belarus temporarily reduced to zero before resuming.

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Bulgaria’s gas network had also said the country was still receiving Russian gas as of this morning.

We are yet to see any data of gas volumes into Poland or Bulgaria since Gazprom’s announcement just now.

 

 

 

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