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7 Signs You Are Bad In Bed And What To Do About It



7 Signs You Are Bad In Bed And What To Do About It

Many people have trouble performing in bed due to stress, and there are lots of ways you can overcome sexual anxiety.

Being bad at sex could mean that either you do not gain any pleasure in sex or that your partner shuts down after sex and doesn’t seem to enjoy it. It’s not a crime- and is definitely something you can work on.

Below are some signs that show you are bad in bed and what to do about it:

  • You never engage in foreplay

You think foreplay is for losers and always get right into it. That’s a sign you’re an amateur and that you’re probably bad at sex. Foreplay is a good way to get started, warm up your partner and get them going. Not caring about how your partner is feeling can be a huge turn-off.

  • You treat sex like another task for the day

If at the end of the day, you’re having sex just to check it off your list, it’s a sign you’re bad in bed. Research shows that treating sex as a chore is very often seen in marital relationships, where pleasure is taken for granted.

Not fulfilling a partner’s needs is what primarily makes a wife or husband bad in bed.

  • You keep apologizing

Apologizing when you cross the line is good. Saying sorry every time you change positions or showing unnecessary concern can ruin the mood and can also be frustrating. Apologizing when your partner sees no need for it can be a sign you’re bad at sex and is an instant turnoff.

  • You don’t do any of the work

Sex is not one-sided — both you and your partner need to be involved in the act for it to be any good. If you’re just lying down and expect your partner to do all the work, then it’s a sure sign you’re bad in bed.

  • You’re overconfident

Being confident about yourself and your body is sexy; being overconfident and conceited is not. Your partner may assume you’re putting on a false bravado to hide how bad you are in bed, and it can also be a turnoff.

  • Your partner usually seems disinterested in sex

You’ve tried everything, but your partner is just not interested in having sex with you. Maybe things were hot and heavy at the beginning of your relationship, but the flames died out quickly. Could that be a sign he thinks you’re bad in bed? Sadly, the answer is a yes.

  • You usually have to plan out the entire act before you do it

You like to know what’s coming. When you know you’re going to have sex, you try to plan it all out and make sure your partner follows your plan. This might’ve been sexy at first, but sticking to the same two moves makes a man (or woman) bad in bed, and your partner could lose interest quickly.

Ways to make bad sex better

Wondering how you can make your sex life better? Here are some ways to improve it:

  • Work on your confidence levels

So now that you know how very low or very high confidence can impact your performance in bed, it’s time to work on it. If you have low confidence, try to build it up slowly using affirmation techniques, like thinking positively about yourself or engaging in confidence-building activities.

  • Work on communication in bed

People think sex is only a physical act, and they cannot be more wrong. Talking during sex is important. Scientists also say that you can talk during sex using non-verbal cues, and it can make your partner feel more comfortable.

You can also try asking your partner questions about what feels good and what positions might not be doing it for them. Talking through it can help you get much better at sex and will make your partner change their mind about whether you’re bad in bed.

  • Try new things

If you only have one bedroom routine, your partner gets bored. And a bored partner is a sign he thinks you’re bad in bed. Switch things up. Play a dirty game or try roleplay. Ask your partner about their wildest fantasy and take it to the next level. In other words, try something new.

  • Be spontaneous

Having a routine relationship can get boring quickly, and this can also impact your performance in bed. Take chances and be spontaneous.

Whisk away your partner with a surprise date night or an overnight trip. Being spontaneous can make your relationship more exciting, and can also make you feel more pumped up and energized in bed.

  • Try sex therapy

This might seem like an overreaction, but going to sex therapy can do wonders for your performance in bed. Sex therapists can help you pinpoint what problems you might be having and where they’re coming from.

If sex is more of a partner issue, then attending therapy sessions together can help build your rapport, fix problems in your relationships both inside and outside your bedroom, and help you make sex a fun part of your dating life.





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Do Not Give Your Girlfriend Money When Dating – Jessica Opare-Saforo Advises Men



Do Not Give Your Girlfriend Money When Dating – Jessica Opare-Saforo Advises Men

In a video shared on her YouTube channel, Jessica stated that it is not okay for guys to give money to their girlfriends.

If the man is to give money regularly to his partner when dating, she argued that the relationship can collapse.

“People might think that giving their partner money guarantees loyalty, guarantees love, guarantees a happy relationship but I am here to tell you that it is actually not the case. If you are someone who has based your whole relationship on money as the solution to everything…there’s an argument and the next thing you do is give her money to go and buy her favourite thing, go shopping, what you are doing is actually damaging your relationship because money cannot be the solution to everything. There is more to life than money.

“Money is great, money is good, money makes things easier, a lot of things but it is not the solution to every problem,” said Jessica.

She added that women who make monetary demands often will leave the men when they are not able to give someday.

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‘A Killer Marriage Is A Nonsense Marriage’ – Pastor Paul Enenche



'A Killer Marriage Is A Nonsense Marriage' - Pastor Paul Enenche

General Overseer of Dunamis International Gospel Church, Pastor Paul Enenche has cautioned men and women against abuse in marriage.

The popular televangelist was preaching on marriage when he urged his church members to avoid marriages that could end them in death.

According to him, divorce is not allowed under any condition but it is better to be alive and there is no marriage than for you to die because of marriage.

He further charged men to handover their wives to their to parents if they think they can’t handle them.

He also noted that it nonsense to die in a marriage, “a killer marriage is a nonsense marriage,” he said.

He continued that some men can abuse their wives emotionally and psychologically.

Pastor Paul Enenche comments come after renowned Nigerian musician, Sister Osinachi Nwachukwu passed on few days ago.

According to reports, the Ekwueme singer has been suffering from physical abuse from her husband and had been on life support for the past two months.

The singer, who is known for her angelic voice, is generally known for the track, Ekwueme, and afterwards the sad news of her demise has gone viral, with many people reacting to it.

Right through her career as a gospel singer, she has featured in some popular gospel songs like ‘Nara Ekele’ by Pastor Dr Paul Enenche (Dunamis, Abuja), ‘Ekwueme’ by Prospa Ochimana, and ‘You no dey use me play’ by Emma.


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‘I Dated My Wife For 9 Years And She Never Asked Me For Money’ – Nigerian Man Shares ‘Grass To Grace’ Story



A Nigerian man has revealed how his girlfriend who is now his wife never stressed him with financial responsibilities during the period he dated her.

He said that they dated for almost 9 years, and during that moment he cannot recall a single moment that she placed a financial burden on his weak shoulders.

He shared his story on Twitter while ultimately reminding couples never to make the fulcrum of their relationship.

In his words;

”All through the almost 9 years I dated my wife, I cannot recall her asking me for money for anything for one day.

It was basically us just doing stuff together with our money. Right from university days until we graduated.

She didn’t call me one day to ask for money for phone Recharge card or hair or dress. We had occasional exchange of gifts and that’s that. Do not see me as tweeting from a privilege position. Our parents weren’t wealthy but they took care of our needs. All these were mostly seen as normal to us because it was common amongst my peers.

So it’s what I know I’ll tweet about. It remained that way until we got married before we individually took up our roles. To the younger ones, you can do it. Poverty is not an excuse as long as you have parents or siblings that are sponsoring you, live within your means and enjoy your relationship and grow together.

Involving money in relationships breed entitlement mentality between people dating.

I take care of you and you give me sex. That’s entitlement. You miss all the opportunities to truly know who you’re dating & it reduces trust & This was what we did. It doesn’t have to work for you if you try. But I’ll not come here to deceive you/tweet for the optics just because it’s “popular” opinion.I’m more into building, bonding & deliberately committing when it involves issues of the heart.”


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