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12 Sweet Things To Say When Someone Asks, ‘Why Do You Love Me?’

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12 Sweet Things To Say When Someone Asks, ‘Why Do You Love Me?’

There are certain questions that inevitably strike fear into the heart of anyone being asked them in the context of a marriage or romantic relationship.

No matter how many cute, sweet and romantic things you find to say to your boyfriend or girlfriend on a regular basis, when you’re hit with one of these humdingers out of the blue, knowing what to say and how to say say it can be absolutely mind-boggling.

One such question is the inevitable, “Does this make me look fat?” posed just as you’re heading out the door to a big event.

That one is relatively easy to navigate, of course. The answer is always, and forever, a resounding, “No! Of course, not. You look amazing.”

But when your boyfriend or girlfriend asks, “Why do you love me?”, it can understandably reduce even the most self-assured among us into deer in the headlights as you watch the entire life of your relationship pass before your eyes.

Paralyzed with fear, your mind becomes numbingly blank.

Before you is someone you actually care about. You do love them. You can even see yourself making a life with them, or perhaps you’ve already decided to.

But right now, under this kind of pressure, you can’t think of a single meaningful thing to say regarding exactly why you love them.

Oh, no! Why haven’t you prepared for this moment? It comes in every relationship. You should have known better.

At least, that’s what you tell yourself as your mind races, your heart pounds, and the silence grows deafening.

There are so many reasons you love this person, it’s just that, at the moment, you can’t bring a single, solitary one to mind.

They look at you with tears welling up in those puppy-dog eyes, beseeching you for an answer. Your silence starts to confirm their worst fear — that they are unlovable.

At this point, almost any answer could potentially save the relationship.

This situation can go one of two ways:

  • A highly-involved dramatic performance complete with an award-worthy emotional meltdown … but let’s not go there
  • A display of tears, but of joy and comfort rather than of pain and sorrow, along with a meaningful deepening of the intimacy in your relationship … let’s do that!
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Ah, of course. But how?

First, take a deep breath and collect yourself.

Recognize the real reason the man or woman you love is asking you this specific question: “Why do you love me?”

It’s likely they are feeling insecure about your relationship, and, even more likely, that they are feeling deeply insecure about themselves.

They may be finding it hard to love themselves, in general or in the moment, and they’re looking to you — the person they trust, love and value above all others — for validation they are worthy of love and they are, indeed, lovable.

Look them in the eye and, if possible, hold them in one of those close hugs that tells a fellow human being they are not alone. That they can count on you. That you’ve got their back.

Then, tell them all the wonderful things you know and feel are lovable about them.

To help keep you light on your toes in case you’re caught off-guard, look to the list of romantic things you can say in response below.

Here are 12 sweet things to say to your boyfriend or girlfriend when they ask, “Why do you love me?”

1. “I love you because you are you. You’re not like anyone else, and you are brave and strong and willing to be you. That inspires me.”

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2. “You are like sunshine itself, and I feel better when I’m with you.”

3. “I love how I feel when I’m with you.”

4. “You accept me for me. I don’t have to hide. You let me be myself, and I thank you for that. It’s amazing to be loved by you.”

5. “You make me feel more alive than anyone ever has.”

6. “You make me want to be a better person.”

7. “You teach me how to be a better partner. You encourage me, support me and let me know how I can best support you.”

8. “You complete me. Before I met you, I never felt whole. With you in my life, I am.”

9. “I love you for your passion for life. It’s contagious.”

10. “You make me feel strong.”

11. “I love your heart. The world is better for having you in it. And I’m lucky I get to call you my love.”

12. “You and me, we’re just good together.”

Now you know why they asked the question, that it’s less about why you love them and more about them needing to receive validation that they are lovable, and how to reply in a way that meets that need.

With these 12 sweet phrases, you can strengthen your relationship and be a true source of support for the person you really, truly do love for many, many good reasons.

 

 

 

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Do Not Give Your Girlfriend Money When Dating – Jessica Opare-Saforo Advises Men

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Do Not Give Your Girlfriend Money When Dating – Jessica Opare-Saforo Advises Men

In a video shared on her YouTube channel, Jessica stated that it is not okay for guys to give money to their girlfriends.

If the man is to give money regularly to his partner when dating, she argued that the relationship can collapse.

“People might think that giving their partner money guarantees loyalty, guarantees love, guarantees a happy relationship but I am here to tell you that it is actually not the case. If you are someone who has based your whole relationship on money as the solution to everything…there’s an argument and the next thing you do is give her money to go and buy her favourite thing, go shopping, what you are doing is actually damaging your relationship because money cannot be the solution to everything. There is more to life than money.

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“Money is great, money is good, money makes things easier, a lot of things but it is not the solution to every problem,” said Jessica.

She added that women who make monetary demands often will leave the men when they are not able to give someday.

Watch the video below;

 

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‘A Killer Marriage Is A Nonsense Marriage’ – Pastor Paul Enenche

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'A Killer Marriage Is A Nonsense Marriage' - Pastor Paul Enenche

General Overseer of Dunamis International Gospel Church, Pastor Paul Enenche has cautioned men and women against abuse in marriage.

The popular televangelist was preaching on marriage when he urged his church members to avoid marriages that could end them in death.

According to him, divorce is not allowed under any condition but it is better to be alive and there is no marriage than for you to die because of marriage.

He further charged men to handover their wives to their to parents if they think they can’t handle them.

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He also noted that it nonsense to die in a marriage, “a killer marriage is a nonsense marriage,” he said.

He continued that some men can abuse their wives emotionally and psychologically.

Pastor Paul Enenche comments come after renowned Nigerian musician, Sister Osinachi Nwachukwu passed on few days ago.

According to reports, the Ekwueme singer has been suffering from physical abuse from her husband and had been on life support for the past two months.

The singer, who is known for her angelic voice, is generally known for the track, Ekwueme, and afterwards the sad news of her demise has gone viral, with many people reacting to it.

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Right through her career as a gospel singer, she has featured in some popular gospel songs like ‘Nara Ekele’ by Pastor Dr Paul Enenche (Dunamis, Abuja), ‘Ekwueme’ by Prospa Ochimana, and ‘You no dey use me play’ by Emma.

 

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‘I Dated My Wife For 9 Years And She Never Asked Me For Money’ – Nigerian Man Shares ‘Grass To Grace’ Story

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A Nigerian man has revealed how his girlfriend who is now his wife never stressed him with financial responsibilities during the period he dated her.

He said that they dated for almost 9 years, and during that moment he cannot recall a single moment that she placed a financial burden on his weak shoulders.

He shared his story on Twitter while ultimately reminding couples never to make the fulcrum of their relationship.

In his words;

”All through the almost 9 years I dated my wife, I cannot recall her asking me for money for anything for one day.

It was basically us just doing stuff together with our money. Right from university days until we graduated.

She didn’t call me one day to ask for money for phone Recharge card or hair or dress. We had occasional exchange of gifts and that’s that. Do not see me as tweeting from a privilege position. Our parents weren’t wealthy but they took care of our needs. All these were mostly seen as normal to us because it was common amongst my peers.

So it’s what I know I’ll tweet about. It remained that way until we got married before we individually took up our roles. To the younger ones, you can do it. Poverty is not an excuse as long as you have parents or siblings that are sponsoring you, live within your means and enjoy your relationship and grow together.

Involving money in relationships breed entitlement mentality between people dating.

I take care of you and you give me sex. That’s entitlement. You miss all the opportunities to truly know who you’re dating & it reduces trust & This was what we did. It doesn’t have to work for you if you try. But I’ll not come here to deceive you/tweet for the optics just because it’s “popular” opinion.I’m more into building, bonding & deliberately committing when it involves issues of the heart.”

 

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