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When Does The Age Difference In A Relationship Become Ferocious?

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Age difference in relationships

For the past few days, one of the most controversial discussions on social media is the predatory nature of relationships where one of the partners is a teenager and the other is an “older adult.”

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When it comes to romantic relationships, people say age is just a number. In today’s world, a 30-year-old woman can fall in love with a 50-year-old man and a 65-year-old woman can be in a relationship with a 41-year-old man. The most important thing is that they are both consenting adults and they love each other enough to be together, yea?

The world no longer frowns at relationships where the age difference is quite noticeable. But at what point does the age difference in a relationship become predatory? At what point do you realise, as an older person, that people of certain demographics are off limits, even though they are legally adults?

As a 79-year-old woman, do you date a 20-year-old man because he’s “legally an adult” and not expect people to react to it? As a 79-year-old man, would you date a 20-year-old woman and expect a pat on the back? The age difference doesn’t even have to be so huge. It could be a man or woman in their thirties constantly being in romantic relationships with teenagers.

This issue is one that has garnered diverse opinions. Some people are claiming that as long as you are 18 and above, anyone can decide to ask to be in a relationship with you. The onus now falls on you to determine if you want to be in that relationship or not. Others are insisting that a relationship where one partner is “barely an adult” has the tendency to be manipulative and predatory. The onus should fall on the older adult to know that teenagers – albeit legal adults – should be off limits.

Power dynamics and imbalance in a relationship is beyond the age difference. Sometimes, it is about the wealth of experience one party has amassed over time, or the level of exposure one person has gotten through the years. Anything one party can leverage over the other.

A 28-year-old who has never had any formal education, has lived in a rural area all through, has little access to basic infrastructure and has no form of exposure is different from a 28-year-old Ivy League graduate who has lived in the city all through, read a lot of books and been in certain rooms. When these two meet, the power dynamics would be different and such a relationship has the tendency to be manipulative. Power imbalance could also be financial. In a home where one party is at the mercy of the other financially, there is no financial balance.

This also applies to age. When one partner is more naive and has considerably less life and relationship experience, there is nearly always a power imbalance. If, as a man or woman in your thirties, you are consistently looking to date teenagers, or you have to constantly defend the legality of your relationship in terms of the age difference, doesn’t that make you predatory in nature? You have a wealth of knowledge of over a decade that puts you in a position where you can easily exploit and groom teenagers who do not have your level of exposure, knowledge, experience, and even finances. Both of you are not operating on the same frequency or growing at the same pace – you are far ahead.

An 18 or 19-year-old is legally an adult, but it doesn’t take away the fact that he/she is still a teenager who is trying to swim through the murky waters of life. An average 18-year-old is still trying to find out who he/she is and would be eager to accept anything or anyone who has a semblance of their fantasies, or holds the promise of a better life. Compared to you, such teenager has had no experience with the complexities of a relationship – and life in general. As an adult, you shouldn’t take advantage of this.

The legality of a number doesn’t entirely make the relationship appropriate. Almost anything can be “legal” to various people. Even those who marry 11-year-olds claim that, according to their religion and belief, it is legal. That a teenager is also “already doing ashewo,” is “growing so fast,” is “already having sugar daddies/mummies,” is “throwing his/herself at you” does not make the relationship okay. If you are in a relationship where there’s an imbalance of power that will potentially leave the younger person open to coercion or abuse, you need to sit in a corner and have a reevaluation of your value system.

It is not everything they “throw at you” that you catch, that is why you’re an adult.

 

 

 

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First Kiss: Here’s How To Do It Right To Impress Your Partner

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First Kiss: Here’s How To Do It Right To Impress Your Partner

Kisses are the most sensual form of intimacy which leave you breathless and wanting for more.

If you do not do it right, it leaves a forever bad impression on your crush or partner. And no one wants to kiss a bad kisser!

Surprisingly, a simple kiss can also be mastered via some techniques considering the time and situation, making it more romantic than usual.

And so, here are some tips to help you improve your kissing game:

  • Don’t kiss too soon

You may be eager to kiss your lady love or man-crush, but doing it too soon may make them uncomfortable or piss them off. They may feel that their space has been compromised or invaded. And worse, if you turn out to be a bad kisser, there’s hardly a chance to get them back.

  • Don’t be too late

The right time and moment are very important to create a sensual vibe for you and your partner to kiss. But if you wait too long, your partner may interpret that you don’t really like them. They may further put you in the friendzone making you lose out on chances.

  • The right moment

“What is the right moment to kiss her/him?” This is the question everyone who has been preparing mentally for a kiss, has. For some, it can be at the first date while for others, it can take weeks or even months. However, there are some subtle signs that can give you hints about your partner, whether they want you to kiss them or not.

  • Intense looks
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If your partner is giving you an intense look and occasionally flicking their eyes towards your lips, then it’s a sure shot sign that they are waiting for you to kiss them. Some even slightly lick their lips to make sure their lips are ‘kiss worthy!

  • Hanging around more during the goodbye

If it’s time to leave the date and your partner is subtly wanting to stay around for some more time, chances are high that they really want you to kiss them. The end of the date signifies a good time and it’s best to seal it with a kiss.

  • Or just be direct

Slowly face your partner and move closer to them, specifically your lips. If your partner backs away, they don’t want to kiss you. If they slightly tilt their head and playfully come closer, it means they want to kiss you but they aren’t up for the first move. And if your partner kisses you straightaway, go all in for a short, slow or passionate kiss.

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3 Things Extroverts Need To Know About Loving An Introvert

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3 Things Extroverts Need To Know About Loving An Introvert

Congratulations! You finally snagged a date with that hot guy from the gym. Over dinner, you practically sit on your tongue to appear demure.

After all, isn’t being an introvert ALL the rage these days? (Everywhere you turn, you hear how much happier introverts are in life, love, and work.)

But being an extrovert or an introvert isn’t about being shy or speaking out — it’s about how you gain energy and how you process life events and situations.

Being around others energizes extroverts, while introverts need quiet (and sometimes solitude) to recharge.

One of the reasons extroverts seem to talk so much is because we need to work things out verbally, while introverts ponder ideas in their head before they express an opinion.

All humans — both introverts and extroverts — are biologically, spiritually, cognitively, and physically wired to love, be loved, and belong. Each just takes a different approach to life and needs to be loved differently.

That doesn’t mean you have to dial down your enthusiasm for the world. Rather, learn skills to successfully navigate the world around you, which is full of people who manage their energy differently than you. This is particularly important in the dating scene.

But if you do decide to go after an introvert, here are the three things an extrovert needs to know about dating an introvert.

1. Put your energy into listening.

As extroverts, we tend to speak in order to think. We are also BIG-time interrupters. As another person talks to us, our responses are already bubbling to the surface, practically bypassing our brains. This frustrates others, especially introverts, and makes them feel silenced by us.

They gave time and attention to listen to your thoughts and feelings. When you interrupt or steam-roll over their less-dominant way of communicating, they feel their words are unimportant.

I know it feels as though you’re being tied down when you don’t speak at every impulse, but allowing others their turn and their say goes a long way in building trust and rapport. So, spend time creating a list of questions you might ask an introverted date to draw him out. Then, shut up and actually listen. This is how a thoughtful exchange begins.

2. Suggest low-key places for dates.

Extroverts feel energized by being around others. Going to a big party, nightclub, or popular restaurant makes you feel alive. However, these experiences drain introverts and they cannot wait to escape. It feels personal if he wants to end the night early when truthfully, he’s just drained from the noise and energy of all the people.

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Later in your relationship, it causes conflict when one of you wants to go out and the other wants to stay in.

Introverts need to observe new situations. On a date, that means you want them focused on observing YOU, not a loud environment. So, suggest familiar or lower-key spots for a date.

I know that a too-quiet environment feels boring to you, but it gives you BOTH an opportunity to get to know each other without being distracted by the outside world too much.

3. Slow down.

As an extrovert, you want to try new experiences and take it all in. You think fast, move quickly, and love the spotlight. Sometimes, you become impatient when you don’t excel at a new skill quickly or when others don’t keep up.

Introverts are often attracted to that unbridled sense of adventure that comes along with them, especially if they don’t have to do the planning. But, all of that enthusiasm quickly becomes overwhelming and exhausting to them.

This isn’t to say that you need to give up your enthusiasm for exploring the world, but by slowing down you learn the art of savoring. Step back and watch your introverted partner approach a problem with a (seemingly) laid-back resoluteness. You can learn patience by watching their tenacity and determination to learn new skills and experience adventures along with you.

By being more patient, you not only offer that gift to your partner, but you can become less judgmental and patient with yourself.

Being an extrovert isn’t a liability when it comes to love.

If you spend your time dating as something you’re not, you will never feel truly accepted and loved (outgoing warts and all). By being your glorious, extroverted self, you have the greatest opportunity for finding a relationship that feels collaborative, loving, and supportive — even one with an introvert.

Why? An extrovert naturally invites an introvert out of his or her shell to explore and experience the world around them.

On the flip side, an introverted partner is the understanding and supportive partner you need when the world feels too busy and overwhelming. He or she will be the first to suggest you put up your feet, have a glass of wine, and snuggle on the couch by the fire. And that’s not a bad way to spend a date night.

 

 

 

 

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Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

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Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

Kaba styles is the way Ghanaians refer to African print blouses. The kaba style for blouses are mostly paired with long shaped skirts known in Ghana as slits.

Kaba styles have stood the test of trends in Ghanaian fashion. There is no trending blouse style which can’t be turned into a kaba style.

These styles are not meant to be sewn with African prints; it can also be sewn with Kente or lace.

In yet another thrilling episode of #Fashion101, you will be seeing gorgeous styles for kaba made from both African prints, Kente and lace that you can sew for yourself.

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These styles for kaba are currently trending and suitable for all occasions. Yes, all occasions!!

Have a look:

Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

Ladies!!!! Here Are 2021 Kaba And Slit Styles You Would Love #Fashion101

 

 

 

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