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5 Reasons You Feel Trapped In A Relationship You Once Thought Was Perfect



5 Reasons You Feel Trapped In A Relationship You Once Thought Was Perfect

Once upon a time, you found a man and began a relationship with him. This guy was better than the rest. He treated you the way you always dreamed of, took you on amazing dates, and showered you with compliments and gifts.

With all the great things he was doing for you during the honeymoon phase of your relationship, you couldn’t help but wonder: What was his motive for doing all of this? Could it be that he’s genuinely in love with me, or is he playing a role?

At the moment you couldn’t quite put your finger on it, but something was off. Despite all the relationship advice you read, you had a gut feeling that was too good to be true.

How could a guy you’ve only dated for two months or less be so madly in love with you? What did you do to make him fall in love with you?

Those are all the questions that came into my head when I was in that very situation.

Instead of taking the time to get to the root of my doubts regarding being in a relationship with my so-called Prince Charming, I rushed into it. I figured that if he loved me so much this early on, there was no way he would cheat on me or break up with me. I thought I might as well be his girlfriend.

When you think about it, me thinking that way is sad. I was rushing into a relationship out of fear of losing him if I didn’t commit. Since I was operating from a place of scarcity, I allowed myself to compromise my need to take things slow. I thought if I let him go, another girl would surely snatch him up in a heartbeat.

That type of thinking speaks to how naive I was in the early stages of my love life.

It never crossed my mind that he could be faking. The guy I thought was so kind and genuine was simply playing the role of a good guy. It’s easy for someone to fake who they are for a short period of time before the real them comes out.

That’s why he was intensely pursuing me for two months prior to our relationship. He knew he couldn’t keep the act up for too long, so he had to do the most he could in the shortest time span to make me believe he was committed to me.

His motive was to do whatever it would take to make me his girlfriend — and it worked. He love bombed me into a relationship without me even knowing.

Love bombing is a “Predatory tactic used to seduce and ensnare an individual into a romantic relationship,” only to later ghost them. I was literally tricked into being in a relationship under the false pretense that he would continue to treat me the way he did in the beginning.

As our relationship progressed, our dates become more inconsistent, he put less effort in, and our conversations got dull. He was no longer the guy I agreed to be with. He changed. It’s like he went from being madly in love with me to just tolerating me.

I began feeling trapped in my relationship. I thought that maybe we could get through this rough patch and go back to normal. I tried hard to salvage what was left. In the process of doing so, I realized that I couldn’t be the only one fighting to save our relationship.

I had to tell myself the harsh reality that the reason he wasn’t putting the effort in was that he didn’t care. He just wanted to be able to say I was his girlfriend as if I was some sort of trophy.

After I broke up with him, I thought we were going to get back together. Looking back, I’m glad we didn’t because in our time apart I learned so much about who he truly was. If I would’ve known then what I know now, I would never have dated him.

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As the saying goes “Everything that glitters is not gold.” Just because a guy seems great, that doesn’t really mean he is. Take the time to really get to know someone and those close to them before getting into a relationship. Rushing is never worth the potential heartbreak.

If you’re feeling trapped in your relationship as I did, here are a few reasons you may feel this way.

1. You rushed into the relationship without getting to know him.

Rushing into a relationship hardly ever ends well because you don’t truly know who you’re getting involved with. We all know that in the early stages of dating, we put our best foot forward and lead with our best qualities in hopes of attracting another person.

But it takes time to get to know someone and learn if you both have an authentic connection that isn’t purely based on physical attraction. When you rush into things, you commit to the person’s representative self, without seeing their true nature.

You’ll feel trapped once you realize you don’t like the real them.

2. You have unrealistic expectations that can’t be met.

Remember that people are imperfect and they make mistakes. If you put your partner on an extremely high pedestal, they’ll disappoint you at some point. You can’t expect someone to be a perfect partner 100 percent of the time, because you aren’t either.

Make sure you and your partner are aware of your expectations, so you can decide which can realistically be met. This is how you keep yourself from feeling unsatisfied in your relationship. When your needs are met in a relationship, you won’t feel trapped.

3. You settled for less.

When you settle for someone in a relationship, sooner or later you feel trapped. Even though it was perfect in the beginning, as time goes on, your lack of satisfaction grows. You can’t help wonder if you could do better or if he’s even worthy of you.

There are too many singles out there for you to settle for someone who isn’t good enough for you. Just wait until you find the person you’re looking for so you can have the relationship you always wanted.

4. You’re financially dependent on him.

Having a man pay for everything you own at first might seem great, but it isn’t. When he’s your source of income, it’s difficult for you to assert your own independence.

If you don’t act in a way that pleases him, he might just cut you off financially. Not having the luxuries you’re used to will surely cause you distress. You won’t feel like you can leave, because you won’t have any money without him.

Allowing a man to be your sole provider will backfire because you’ll end up feeling like you can never provide for yourself without him.

5. You’re scared to leave.

Sometimes the man you thought was “the one” could have a serious temper. His anger issues will hardly ever show in the beginning; in fact, he might be a complete sweetheart.

The issues only become apparent when you get deeper into the relationship, and by then it’s too late. Since you know he has anger issues, you can’t help but feel like leaving, even though you hate staying.





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First Kiss: Here’s How To Do It Right To Impress Your Partner



First Kiss: Here’s How To Do It Right To Impress Your Partner

Kisses are the most sensual form of intimacy which leave you breathless and wanting for more.

If you do not do it right, it leaves a forever bad impression on your crush or partner. And no one wants to kiss a bad kisser!

Surprisingly, a simple kiss can also be mastered via some techniques considering the time and situation, making it more romantic than usual.

And so, here are some tips to help you improve your kissing game:

  • Don’t kiss too soon

You may be eager to kiss your lady love or man-crush, but doing it too soon may make them uncomfortable or piss them off. They may feel that their space has been compromised or invaded. And worse, if you turn out to be a bad kisser, there’s hardly a chance to get them back.

  • Don’t be too late

The right time and moment are very important to create a sensual vibe for you and your partner to kiss. But if you wait too long, your partner may interpret that you don’t really like them. They may further put you in the friendzone making you lose out on chances.

  • The right moment

“What is the right moment to kiss her/him?” This is the question everyone who has been preparing mentally for a kiss, has. For some, it can be at the first date while for others, it can take weeks or even months. However, there are some subtle signs that can give you hints about your partner, whether they want you to kiss them or not.

  • Intense looks
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If your partner is giving you an intense look and occasionally flicking their eyes towards your lips, then it’s a sure shot sign that they are waiting for you to kiss them. Some even slightly lick their lips to make sure their lips are ‘kiss worthy!

  • Hanging around more during the goodbye

If it’s time to leave the date and your partner is subtly wanting to stay around for some more time, chances are high that they really want you to kiss them. The end of the date signifies a good time and it’s best to seal it with a kiss.

  • Or just be direct

Slowly face your partner and move closer to them, specifically your lips. If your partner backs away, they don’t want to kiss you. If they slightly tilt their head and playfully come closer, it means they want to kiss you but they aren’t up for the first move. And if your partner kisses you straightaway, go all in for a short, slow or passionate kiss.

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3 Things Extroverts Need To Know About Loving An Introvert



3 Things Extroverts Need To Know About Loving An Introvert

Congratulations! You finally snagged a date with that hot guy from the gym. Over dinner, you practically sit on your tongue to appear demure.

After all, isn’t being an introvert ALL the rage these days? (Everywhere you turn, you hear how much happier introverts are in life, love, and work.)

But being an extrovert or an introvert isn’t about being shy or speaking out — it’s about how you gain energy and how you process life events and situations.

Being around others energizes extroverts, while introverts need quiet (and sometimes solitude) to recharge.

One of the reasons extroverts seem to talk so much is because we need to work things out verbally, while introverts ponder ideas in their head before they express an opinion.

All humans — both introverts and extroverts — are biologically, spiritually, cognitively, and physically wired to love, be loved, and belong. Each just takes a different approach to life and needs to be loved differently.

That doesn’t mean you have to dial down your enthusiasm for the world. Rather, learn skills to successfully navigate the world around you, which is full of people who manage their energy differently than you. This is particularly important in the dating scene.

But if you do decide to go after an introvert, here are the three things an extrovert needs to know about dating an introvert.

1. Put your energy into listening.

As extroverts, we tend to speak in order to think. We are also BIG-time interrupters. As another person talks to us, our responses are already bubbling to the surface, practically bypassing our brains. This frustrates others, especially introverts, and makes them feel silenced by us.

They gave time and attention to listen to your thoughts and feelings. When you interrupt or steam-roll over their less-dominant way of communicating, they feel their words are unimportant.

I know it feels as though you’re being tied down when you don’t speak at every impulse, but allowing others their turn and their say goes a long way in building trust and rapport. So, spend time creating a list of questions you might ask an introverted date to draw him out. Then, shut up and actually listen. This is how a thoughtful exchange begins.

2. Suggest low-key places for dates.

Extroverts feel energized by being around others. Going to a big party, nightclub, or popular restaurant makes you feel alive. However, these experiences drain introverts and they cannot wait to escape. It feels personal if he wants to end the night early when truthfully, he’s just drained from the noise and energy of all the people.

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Later in your relationship, it causes conflict when one of you wants to go out and the other wants to stay in.

Introverts need to observe new situations. On a date, that means you want them focused on observing YOU, not a loud environment. So, suggest familiar or lower-key spots for a date.

I know that a too-quiet environment feels boring to you, but it gives you BOTH an opportunity to get to know each other without being distracted by the outside world too much.

3. Slow down.

As an extrovert, you want to try new experiences and take it all in. You think fast, move quickly, and love the spotlight. Sometimes, you become impatient when you don’t excel at a new skill quickly or when others don’t keep up.

Introverts are often attracted to that unbridled sense of adventure that comes along with them, especially if they don’t have to do the planning. But, all of that enthusiasm quickly becomes overwhelming and exhausting to them.

This isn’t to say that you need to give up your enthusiasm for exploring the world, but by slowing down you learn the art of savoring. Step back and watch your introverted partner approach a problem with a (seemingly) laid-back resoluteness. You can learn patience by watching their tenacity and determination to learn new skills and experience adventures along with you.

By being more patient, you not only offer that gift to your partner, but you can become less judgmental and patient with yourself.

Being an extrovert isn’t a liability when it comes to love.

If you spend your time dating as something you’re not, you will never feel truly accepted and loved (outgoing warts and all). By being your glorious, extroverted self, you have the greatest opportunity for finding a relationship that feels collaborative, loving, and supportive — even one with an introvert.

Why? An extrovert naturally invites an introvert out of his or her shell to explore and experience the world around them.

On the flip side, an introverted partner is the understanding and supportive partner you need when the world feels too busy and overwhelming. He or she will be the first to suggest you put up your feet, have a glass of wine, and snuggle on the couch by the fire. And that’s not a bad way to spend a date night.





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Mzbel Dumps Papa No, Chases After Senegalese Men; Says They Have The Longest D!ck



Mzbel Dumps Papa No, Chase After Senegalese Men; Says They Have The Longest D!ck

Ghanaian songstress, Mzbel who is known for her dirty bedroom talks has shared her little knowledge men from Senegal and the size of manhood they possess.

According to her, men from the West African country are well endowed with long and big organs than Ghanaian men.

The musician cum radio host disclosed this on Onua FM while educating couples on various sex positions they can try with partners for maximum satisfaction and how a man with small manhood can satisfy a woman.

Speaking from book knowledge, Mzbel said even though most Ghanaian men have fairly large manhoods, Senegalese men outmatch them with bigger penis that can satisfy a woman without any stress.

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She went on to state that she will try.

She then advised women who want to be with men with the biggest manhood to try and date Senegalese men.

Watch the video below:

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